Sorting out what feels best--------- sex

[sara]

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[cigi]

SO THIS GUY WAS JUST DRIFTWOOD!?---I GET THAT AND I AM OK AND AT PEACE WITH THAT ...AND THIS MEANS THAT FOR NOW MY SEXUAL BEING GOES HIDING AGAIN===THAT DOES NOT FEEL GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DESIRE TO HAVE DELICIOUS, OVER THE TOP , THE GREATEST, BEST, MOST FUN ,MOST WILD, MOST CREATIVE, MOST LEADING EDGE SEX EVER=NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, DO I SCREW HIS BRAINS OUT WHILE HE IS STILL HERE??

WHERE IS MY JOY?


Hey Brightlovelight!

Soooo??? Why does he HAVE to be driftwood? Why can't he just be a fun toy that you know you'll outgrow? Why can't you just screw his brains out? Why can't you screw every guy you choose to? Why does your sexuality have to go back into hiding? :scratch:

All those things are YOUR CHOICES!! You got the "chastity belt" off - the only one who can put it back on is you!!

Have some fun! Be TRAMPALICIOUS!!

:dance2: cigi

[sara]

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[asjairok]

If you could just understand that he is there to make your vibration of your attraction stronger.
He has dick-yes, so should your best partner have.
So dick is around.
Your attraction is good, and he is a proof of that.
So he is not quite what you want and you have to adjust just this little tiny winy thing.
Otherwise you attract good.
You have to be good to yourself, perfect to yourself, perfect woman for one man.
You can tell this dick that he can do whatever the fuck he wants because you know what you want.
You can let him go , because than somebody else enters that is of your vibration.
Everything is all write, Brightlight, be sure that the one you want is coming.
He could as well tell you this at the beginning. But he is a dickhead. :biggrin:
I believe in you Nancy.
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[cigi]

ALRIGHT SIS'S!

Let's hear it for the GOOD GIRL GONE BAD!! :woohoo:

Let's hear it for the BAD GIRLS GONE GOOD who still know how to get their NAUGHTY on!

Who me? NNOOOO!! I'm just a suburban soccer mom....... :twisted:

[sara]

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[sara]

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[asjairok]

Yes this forum is amazing!
I think Ronald goes downstream because he doesn't try so much to find mistakes rofl
Well I must be some severe on Jody, it makes me feel better :biggrin: because of revenge rofl
I will pass to love later on rofl
Well I'm so happy to hear that Brightlight, you know I love you :heart:
You are my heart fellow
I know you can made iT
I made it.
Bob Proctor made it with money,
so can I.
I think this is easy.
Bob Proctor thinks that making money is easy.
Ana thinks finding soul mate is easy.
easy easy easy easy
KISSS.
I love you so.
You can get what you want, without compromising - actually I think this is how it works.
Because you claim your attraction point.
Sorry to others point of view.
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[asjairok]

ALRIGHT SIS'S!

Let's hear it for the GOOD GIRL GONE BAD!! :woohoo:
Let's hear it for the BAD GIRLS GONE GOOD who still know how to get their NAUGHTY on!
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CIGI, YOU ARE SOOOO CUTE
..I JUST WANT TO TAKE YOU HOME!! (AND I AM NOT EVEN BI rofl rofl rofl rofl
I GUESS IF YOU'VE GOT IT YOU'VE JUST GOT IT SO LET'S FLAUNT IT!!!!!!!!!!

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ha ha ha ha ha ha ha :D kiss

[sara]

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[cigi]

I FREAKING LOVE THIS FORUM!
SO MUCH FREEDOM!
SO MUCH FUN!!!!
Hey girls - we should plan a big ol' trip to some fabulous city & get our FUN on!!! Wouldn't THAT be nice!?!

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[asjairok]

I FREAKING LOVE THIS FORUM!
SO MUCH FREEDOM!
SO MUCH FUN!!!!
Hey girls - we should plan a big ol' trip to some fabulous city & get our FUN on!!! Wouldn't THAT be nice!?!

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Yes that would be wild.

[sara]

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[cigi]

IF I COULD SHIFT MYSELF TO NOT CARING ABOUT THIS "DICK" AS ANA CALLS HIM AND HE IS DISAPPEARING ANYWAY---HUMMMMM MAYBE I COULD HAVE GREAT SEX NOT CARING WHAT HE THINKS NOR ME CARING...

By George (i mean Rewa, i mean Osho :lol: ) I think you've GOT IT!!

This could be a hugely empowering experience for you, Nancy! Have loads of SUPER-SEXY fun with no one to answer to, or be judged by.

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[asjairok]

I think we girls really love this subject! :biggrin:

[New Dawn Rising]

This is a delicious thread! But OFF-TOPIC!!! Where is the delete button? :lol:
Soooo??? Why does he HAVE to be driftwood? Why can't he just be a fun toy that you know you'll outgrow? Why can't you just screw his brains out? Why can't you screw every guy you choose to? Why does your sexuality have to go back into hiding?

All those things are YOUR CHOICES!! You got the "chastity belt" off - the only one who can put it back on is you!!

Have some fun! Be TRAMPALICIOUS!!
CAN A "GOOD' GIRL BECOME TRAMPALCIOUS??? IT SOUNDS GREAT AND VERY ABISH IN A WAY!! IT FEELS LIKE GREAT FUN!!! ..........I FEEL HAPPY WITH YOUR POST=VERY ABISH TO FEEL BETTER JUST READING YOUR JOYFUL FUNNY WORDS!!
If Cigi's words gave you relief... and felt good to you... then pay attention to that. That means the thoughts you were thinking while reading those words are closer to how your Inner Being sees the situation.

I used to be a trampalicious. But I had to keep it to an occasional fling thing with any one particular dick. Like Friday night -Jeff, and Saturday night - Steve, and Sunday night - Sonny. I could go back and be with Jeff or Steve or Sonny again... but it had to be an irregular thing. Otherwise I noticed that if I was "with" one particular man for very long, say weeks. I began to develop an attachment to him, beyond the sexual part. I began to get emotionally involved... and that's when the conflict started and that's when it started to get messy and not so much fun. So I see it is like that with you too... tempted to get emotionally involved when the situation calls only for sexual fun. So the best thing to do with this dick is to figure out how to "love 'em and leave 'em". How to have fun sexually without getting "too" emotionally attached. Or, heck, maybe go ahead and get attached and then when he leaves you'll grieve a bit and then move on. It's all just physical life stuff. Sometimes we try too hard to protect ourselves from getting hurt.

Choose the path of least resistance and then line up with it. There may not be a perfect choice here for you but choose the one that feels best - to put the chastity belt back on or not... and then line up it. There are no wrong choices.

One last thing BrightLight... don't try and be something you're not. Be true to yourself. Some of us are/were able to separate sex and love... and maybe you can too. But if you can't... then don't berate yourself. It just doesn't work for some people and the most important thing is to be true to who you are and not try and be a trampalicious if it doesn't suit you. Of course, in order for you to find that out you'll need to try it - at least once. ;) This guy sounds like the perfect dick to experiment with.

[sara]

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[asjairok]

Great Alex!

[sara]

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[cigi]

:lol: rofl ALEX!!! rofl

Nice to see one of the "boys" jumping in on this one! Maybe you should've first checked the water for sharks! rofl
Women call each other "girl" for a reason. It's something we do in regard to the standards society has placed on us. "Good girl" & "bad girl" are terms we use to cover a lot more than just the basic meaning of the words. I could spend days trying to explain the subtleties of female colloquialisms to you, but maybe you should just ask Paula! :lol:

At any rate, I think you are one brave guy for weighing in on this topic!!! :clap:

Thanks! :heart:

[cigi]

ARE WE SURE THAT I AM NOT GOING TO GET KICKED OFF OF THIS FORUM??



Oh we're all DEFINITELY on our way to getting banned!!!

[cigi]

Well said, Alex. Just Brilliant! :clap:

What a great -and timely - reminder that no matter how much fun we are having poking at our shallower desires, what really matters is the underlying spirituality of our beliefs. After all, it's why we've come together here to discuss our lives & experiences.

Thanks again! :kiss:

[honestly]

ARE WE SURE THAT I AM NOT GOING TO GET KICKED OFF OF THIS FORUM??



Oh we're all DEFINITELY on our way to getting banned!!!
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[Rodney]

My beliefs run parallel to rocknrollgoddess.

There is semantics that gets me to thinking. When someone says "I have a girlfriend", or "I have a husband". It's the "I have" that makes me wonder: at which point did this other person become your object of possession?

Can we ever really "have" anyone?

[sara]

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[LeapingDolphin]

I missed the whole exciting sex discussion! :dance: darn it! But yeah girl!!,,, Do what feels good. You get to make your OWN rules up now! No such thing as a tramp or slut or bad girl anyway, unless these are downstream terms that you enjoy using for yourself (and I know some women enjoy their 'sluthood'). It just means you are embracing life, living it up, is there ever a time we feel so alive as during (and just after) great sex!? :D

Love ya, :heart:

[sara]

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[sara]

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[New Dawn Rising]

i have ALWAYS been able to love those i was sexual with and still let them walk out the door--the next morning the next week, the next year....
Interesting goddess. As I explained above, when I was "tramping" around I kept it strictly physical - just a fuck, nothing else. That's all I wanted.

Later, I was mistress to a married man. So the sexual relationship went on for many months and to my dismay I fell in love with the bastard. Why was that so bad? Because when I came to love him I wanted to share more than just sex... like going out to dinner, or a movie, or sharing the day together... But he was married so went home to his wife. I have never felt so empty inside as I would after we had passionate sex and then he walked out the door to go home to her.

So I've wondered about people who claim to be polyamorous... thinking they were full of shit. Because when I had multiple partners I kept it strictly physical, there was no love.... And then when I got my heart involved with someone where there was sex but no other committment... I ended up feeling really bad. So how could you really truly "love" multiple sex partners? With no committment other than sex? To me sex with love means some kind of committment. Because I want to be with them...

Anyway, I know you're not full of shit... but now I'm curious.... Do you mean that you could be juggling 2-3 different lovers and have a deep heart connection with all of them? What if you were making passionate love to someone and you knew the next morning they were going to walk out the door forever? Wouldn't that tear you up? Geez I couldn't deal....

But isn't it nice...we all get to have our own perspectives and our own preferences. Yay!

[Jen415]

maybe its because i am polyamourous, though living in a monogamous relationship--and maybe jen jenny can speak on this because she is livin the dream!

Yep, that would be me! I have so much love in my life it just oozes out from everywhere!!!

But I would have to disagree with Alex (RNRG) on one area....even though I know I am capable of loving more than one person at a time, it definitely does not mean I could watch them walk out of my life and not feel tore up about it. I experienced this when my secondary partner told me (only in theory mind you) that he and his wife could move across the country. He has a tendency to joke about things like that, but for me it struck terror in my heart. I cannot imagine my life without him in it every day. I'm still trying to sort this out Abe style.

[sara]

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[New Dawn Rising]

All endings are orchestrated for the beginning of something more a match to you.
Your post wasn't too short Alex B. I totally got it and this is beautiful and I know this in my head but not in my heart. Someday, maybe soon, I will know this completely.

Goddess - thanks for your explanation.... I understand you better now. Your "bad girl" days certainly sound more loving than mine. And that's OK - that was the path I chose. And it gave me some good contrast... so that I now know monogamy is more to my liking. And I choose monogamy because that is what I want... not because that is what society tells me. And that's a big difference.

I love and adore my hubby and am so happy in the committed and loving relationship that we share. Yay for monogamy! It may be boring and not the stuff that popular tv shows are made of...but it's what I like!

And BrightLight I want to second what Alex B says here:

One other thing, you don't have to be a tramp. You could just be happy being hwo you are and be content with that. ............What is BrightLightLove all about? -> be that and make no apologies, trust in the Unvierse.

[sara]

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[sara]

ANOTHER GOOD THOUGHT ALEX, THANKS!


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[Pina Colada]

Nanc,hun,I don't have any wisdom to share,you already got some wonderful advice.Just wanted to say that you're a powerful creator and you can have it all.There's a Universe inside you,infinite source of knowledge and love.No reason you shouldn't trust that. :heart:

[sara]

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[cigi]

[quote="brightlovelight"]WE HAVE THE POWER[/color][/size] OF SOURCE ENERGY, WETHER IT IS LOVE OR SEX IT IS COMING FROM SOURCE NOT FROM THE OTHER PERSON.....


How INCREDIBLY profound is that? I LOVE IT!! Now, let's apply it to EVERY aspect of our lives!!!!

Thanks for sharing, sista!

[sara]

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