LadyRaine
Sat Feb 20 2010, 2:56am
Hi all. I'm not a regular here, I check in off and on.
Last fall we started really playing in earnest about where we could go and what we could do... Something very different than where we were at the time. After that, we had a whole scenario come together that resulted in us moving to Oregon and helping my friend and her boyfriend with a hotel they had bought, with various eBay and retail businesses involved. All of these things are well within our strengths and past experience, so we would be a really good addition for them. We were excited to make this move, help my friend, and get more experience for ourselves.
Now that we've been here a few months, things are not feeling like a good fit. The boyfriend is actually a control freak, micro-managing, idiotic ass. We thought we were coming in as people with experience and new ideas to help expand and refine, but he fights us on every move we make. He feels threatened by us and rejects all of our ideas- opting to only assign us menial tasks.
It's not unlike being held hostage by a retarded child. All of us hop (five adults total) when he is upset/wants something done/throws a fit. Normal productivity is impeded as soon as it starts. We can't get behind any project, our enthusiasm is way down, and we're already just showing up to get paid because doing anything more is too trying.
I am PISSED. This is NOT how it was supposed to be/not how I created it/not how it was presented to us. I didn't move all this way to be dicked around by this pea brain! I am intelligent and know SO much more than he does.
ARRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHH!
Today I got to shampoo the carpet because of puppy pooh stains. Seriously. I am a marketing whiz/eBay pro, and could be doing something that produces real dollars, but no. I shampooed carpet while I heard a 30 minute tirade about what needed to be done, then my "boss" drove 20+ miles to wash his frickin truck. Idjit.
Obviously I'm bitter. How do I reprogram/ignore what is and focus on what I want? Please share tips!
Last fall we started really playing in earnest about where we could go and what we could do... Something very different than where we were at the time. After that, we had a whole scenario come together that resulted in us moving to Oregon and helping my friend and her boyfriend with a hotel they had bought, with various eBay and retail businesses involved. All of these things are well within our strengths and past experience, so we would be a really good addition for them. We were excited to make this move, help my friend, and get more experience for ourselves.
Now that we've been here a few months, things are not feeling like a good fit. The boyfriend is actually a control freak, micro-managing, idiotic ass. We thought we were coming in as people with experience and new ideas to help expand and refine, but he fights us on every move we make. He feels threatened by us and rejects all of our ideas- opting to only assign us menial tasks.
It's not unlike being held hostage by a retarded child. All of us hop (five adults total) when he is upset/wants something done/throws a fit. Normal productivity is impeded as soon as it starts. We can't get behind any project, our enthusiasm is way down, and we're already just showing up to get paid because doing anything more is too trying.
I am PISSED. This is NOT how it was supposed to be/not how I created it/not how it was presented to us. I didn't move all this way to be dicked around by this pea brain! I am intelligent and know SO much more than he does.
ARRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHH!
Today I got to shampoo the carpet because of puppy pooh stains. Seriously. I am a marketing whiz/eBay pro, and could be doing something that produces real dollars, but no. I shampooed carpet while I heard a 30 minute tirade about what needed to be done, then my "boss" drove 20+ miles to wash his frickin truck. Idjit.
Obviously I'm bitter. How do I reprogram/ignore what is and focus on what I want? Please share tips!