Staying in your own power

[Tai]

Hi all.
'Simple' question: what do you guys do to let others mood not affect you? I actually feel pretty good myself, but some people around me tend to have some very bad moods. Right now I just try to focus on myself no matter what, but I notice that it sometimes still irritates my energy. Do you guys use specific tricks to stay in your own power?
Much love :heart:
Tai

[Mueni]

I like to use the focus wheel. Writing has always been a very powerful point of focus for me and I write and rampage a lot but when my vibe is low, the focus wheel acts as a wonderful bridge to get me back to joy and appreciation so that I can start rampaging again. I am amazed by how well it works. Its the most amazing tool. But the time I get to the last segment on the circle I am always right back in the vortex

I do mine by drawing a small circle and then drawing a larger circle around it. I divide the large circle into quarters and then draw tow lines in each quarter so I have 12 segments in total. In the little circle I write 'in the vortex' and I describe how I feel in relation to the contrast I am facing eg if what I want is to be happy no matter what I'd put is 'In the vortex I am happy no matter what is going on around me.'

I then start with the first circle and describe the situation as best as I can focusing on any good points that I can. e.g. 'I love how I am able to recognise this contrast and find tools to use to get me back into the wellbeing that is my natural state. ' I then move from that thought to another thought that feels better and another one and another and by the time I get to fill half of the circle I'm already feeling better and it just gets better and better that by the time I'm finishing the last ones I'm totally back in my vortex feeling exactly the way I intended when I began.

It works amazingly. Even when I start out feeling it won't work it still does. I just love that.

[Chamber]

There's no real trick to just not giving a shit. lol

It is a difficult thing tho...being an empath and yet not letting it affect you.

[Tai]

Thanks guys, I like these tips. :heart:

[Rheyna]

This is more of an awareness, but I guess you can call it a 'trick'.
I sometimes think, 'wow, that could easily be me if I let my thoughts get lazy'. And then a feeling of calm comes over me. We are a part of each other and what another is feeling, we could easily feel IF WE LET IT. I've found coming from this angle I feel more empathy. I feel more connected to that person without letting what that person is feeling affect me.

If one keeps thinking, 'I'm not going to let their mood affect me', then they are pushing against it and creating more of that.

[Izzy]

I adapted this imagery from Busting Loose, which I highly recommend. I'll let you know how I get on!

I got some help also from Busting Loose. I understood that I create every situation I am in, and the people I interact with. I know, I know, we learned that from Abe too, but BL has helped me see it in another light.

Now every time I am bothered by something/someone I just can't help but remind myself that I created that person/situation, and I playfully ask myself 'why would I create such thing'...and the answer (I make up the answer) always makes me laugh. And after I laugh, I am back in my own power.

[asjairok]

I got some help also from Busting Loose. I understood that I create every situation I am in, and the people I interact with. I know, I know, we learned that from Abe too, but BL has helped me see it in another light.

Now every time I am bothered by something/someone I just can't help but remind myself that I created that person/situation, and I playfully ask myself 'why would I create such thing'...and the answer (I make up the answer) always makes me laugh. And after I laugh, I am back in my own power.
hehe Isabel, good job!

[Nightprincessa]

Now every time I am bothered by something/someone I just can't help but remind myself that I created that person/situation, and I playfully ask myself 'why would I create such thing'...and the answer (I make up the answer) always makes me laugh. And after I laugh, I am back in my own power.

Exactly! You just took the words right out of my mouth, Izzy! :D :p

Love ya! :kiss4: :heart:

[Chamber]

I get bored when things go too smoothly.

Where's the fun when things are super easy?

Really...how can you experience your own personal power when everything is a cakewalk?

Face and embrace.

[Chamber]

Yes...a lonely lonely freak.

A friend said this weekend "Warriors want to face an opponent that is at their strongest."

[Nightprincessa]

I do think like Izzy. I think about what it is that I have been thinking about or what am I focusing on to bring this about.

Buuuuut....... if I get really pissed at someone (even if I created it) I let them have it! I will say something and speak my mind... cuz this is my reality and I can do it. And after I have made it clear that I am not happy and don't like what is happening I start feeling awesome cuz I love feeling the intense surge of my own powerful energy. :D

I don't know about you guys but... being pissed is very empowering to me!:p

I know that doesn't sound very loving, but hey, my feeling good is more important than anything else!

I love my own power! :cool:

[Tai]

Leah, it's all a choice. you don't have to tense up, you can smile and think how much you love your life (with or without him) - you can not think the sponsoring thought - you can even say "hey, have fun with that, but i'm totally not interested" and go do something that you love. or go to another room, put in headphones, whatever. you honestly don't have to let yourself get upset too...

when things keep happening over and over like that, it's a dance the TWO of you are doing. stop participating in your half. change the dance :)

also (and i know you know this already), you can not get him to think a better thought, you can only think one for yourself, and therefore create betterness for yourself as well.

Wow, I love this, even though it was meant for Leah it was a great reply for me. In my case I'm a big part of the dance haha, and I would love to just stop dancing this dance and just follow my own music :grin: Sometimes my emotions (mostly irritation) gets so intense that it's hard for me to ignore it and just go do something else, but I know that's the best way to go, because I only keep the patterns going.
I notice that when I feel good, the other person feels good as well, and Most of the times I take it too personal when someone acts not so nice. And I think the key for me is just allowing anyone to be and let myself be as I am.
Thanks all
Love :sunlight:

[Dance of Joy]

Excellent summation, Tai. You are onto it. http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_203.gif
(http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZN)

[Nightprincessa]

These situations of contrast are the best ones because behind them, there lies the infinite power you hid from yourself. By jumping right into it the situation, you get to reclaim your access to the infinite power.

EXACTLY MY POINT!!! :p

[River]

I have a strong belief that the best in me relates to the best in another, whoever we are. There is always some common ground where we can have a good time. If I am focusing on me feeling good, it naturally arises and makes it possible to get along with most anyone. I will say that I am drawn to spending time with uplifting, joyful people, and so I end up doing that because that feels good, and is "following my highest excitement" as Bashar says.

Affirmation: I am always having a good time whomever I am with. I can always find something to feel good about.

I always have free will to choose what is my highest excitement (which may include going elsewhere or changing the subject). Ignore the unwanted.

I noticed my Thai Massage instructor has a really cool technique when any conversation is upstream for her. She just compliments you on something which immediately puts you both into a good space. Nice little trick! It seems like a non sequitur but you don't really care because she makes you feel so good by noticing something you are wearing, or what you said, and it feels authentic. :grin:

:heart:Shannon

[ghanima]

besides the story of reclaiming the eggs, which I agree with, I also think on another level that there is a right distance for each person in each moment, I mean in the emotional sense if the physical is not possible. So if I feel uneasy I withdraw inwards, as much as needed to feel at ease again, it can be just a tiny bit or I can really close completely, then I'll later re-open, cautiously, well actually I tend not to be too cautious, but I wish to be more slow in that phase. I do like snails!
It's not that you close the heart, it is more the solar plexus energetically.

[windowe]

The only way someone else's mood will affect yours is if you somehow "care" what they will think of your most joyous response. In other words, the only reason this is even a question is because you're not allowing yourself to BE Who You Are, which could include walking away, telling them to shut up, go away, leave you alone, whatever.

Thus, their "mood" becomes the control game they're using, and you are willingly choosing to accept, that influences your connection to Who You Are.

This is why the Hicks have you sign a contract when you come to their seminars. You are willingly choosing to give them your power. You are saying, "Yes, I will abide by your need for control."

The point isn't that they shouldn't do this. The point is whether you actually care or not that they need you to sign your power away. You are signing your power away, and this has subtle psychic and "vibrational" effects which actually give them more influence and control than people realize.

Enjoy.

[windowe]

This is very peculiar. I've read this several times in your posts. I went to an Abe-Hicks seminar in December and no one had to sign anything.

I do understand that my partner is playing a control game, consciously or otherwise. In fact it would be hard to say which of us has a greater investment in controlling the other. Working on it. ;)

Perhaps they changed their control policy.