Going up and down the emotional scale

[Cantabile]

I don't fight it off. I don't struggle with it. As someone who has recently learned Abe's teachings, little by little, with small, gentle steps I learn to discard what I have picked up from my physical trail.

Recently, I have manifested a lot of wonderful things before my very eyes. I have manifested a bigger room in an inn for our 2nd year of union. I have manifested a wonderful client. I have manifested a newly built apartment which will be ours soon! All is well. Without being impatient. Trusting the universe that all will be given with my asking.

But as what Abe said, there will always be contrast. These contrast makes our life exciting because it makes us want all things that are good.

I'd like to ask, how should I deal with this contrast. I know I have attracted this contrast into my life and I want to take responsibility to it. But putting up a fight isn't my kind of thing. Let alone focusing on it drains me. I am the kind of person who really doesn't like arguments of any kind.

This contrast is about my husband's family. Who treats all people outside of their family (meaning, not related to you in anyway) as an unworthy. And here I am zapped into their world.

I will not go about in details as it will only make me focus on things that are not good.

How then can I play with this contrast? How would Abe answer this question?

Should we avoid them? Should we face them?

And now, I am just letting it go. Let go.

I may be in tears right now but I am on my way back to joy. I have the power to change things before my eyes.

-Yvie "Tangerine"

[asjairok]

Ou, "pour girl",
I am a Kind of person that argues, and quarrels,
I'm not only that... :biggrin: ,
I showed my family where are my boundaries, and I told my boyfriend where are my boundaries boundaries, and I told him where are my boundaries about his family, and it seems important for me to speak with my boyfriend about that. Because it is more about that he respects you fully so that he can say to his family what you both agree about. (I've been watching doctor Phill once and there was some misunderstanding between wife and mother of one guy, and Dr. Phill said that it it really on him to say his mother where he wants respect for his wife..,
So...I don't know your situation for real, I can't put myself into it because my differs, But also I speak my truth when I'm around his family when that concerns other people, I always have my opinion, and I use to change their view with mine. With nice spoken words, how this people are behaving as they behave because they have problems , too. And believe me no one tries to convince me otherwise after that( if you can't do that it means that you're afraid of them, that you think that you're not person enough-maybe you haven't grown up for real, and than start with this fear, because your starting point will -your emotion-will tell you a lot, a lot, a lot about situation, and it will begin to change because your attraction will begin to change, too.) , and if they would behave disrespectfully to you, it is nice to use this old-fashioned way and tell it to your husband - because you don't necessarily have to meet his parents, you married him, and not the whole family, you will have people that vibrate the same as you if you can't deal with his parents, and so on,
Me myself, I now go rare there to meet them, and I even plan to meet them less.
If they are coming to your house, than allow, because as far as you allow this situation and not resist it, even though you don't want it, situation will change. They will eventually go from your life in amounts that you don't like.

[Jen415]

Hi Yvie:

Whatever you can do to avoid much interaction with them....do it.Put yourself first. NOTHING is more important than you feeling good.

:heart: Jen

[Dance of Joy]

I can hear Abe say, ignore that part of them! Focus on what you DO appreciate about them. Everyone has some redeeming features. Get out a pen and write down every single one that you can think of. It might be 'they raised the man I love and he is wonderful' or 'I enjoy their garden.'

Also, ask your IB how he/she sees them. IBs always see with love.

Love,
Christine

[mauidelite]

Thank you for asking this question - it helps the rest of us understand more clearly, too!

Contrast is a gift in that it helps us more clearly define what we want.

This subject was covered in a video I found just yesterday on youtube.com. You can find it if you search for "Glorious Experience of Allowing." I was drawn to it because my brother watches a TV show all day, every day, where people are shown doing stupid things, illegal things, getting caught, having awful accidents. I recoil every time I see it - I turn away - much like you are wanting to do with your in-law situation. Abe suggests differently:

It's easier to come into alignment with Source when you're withdrawing from things that might take you out of alignment, but once you've shown yourself how easy it is, under any and all condition, to come into alignment with Source, then you can have the glorious experience of getting out there and mixing it up with others and letting the co-creation with others help you, and them, add to the vibrational escrow, which is what the expansion of the Universe is all about.

...when you see something that is offensive to you or upsetting to you, don't just pull away from it, instead, make peace with it in a sense...because if you see something that is bothersome and you look away from it, you leave the vibration right where it was, you don't do anything about bridging it. And while you could look at many other things and cause better feeling things to be the dominant activation within your vibration, still, that's active in your vibration, it's right where you last left it and when it comes up again, you're going to recoil again and you're going to recoil again and you're going to recoil again.

Our encouragement is to get out there and mix it up with others, mix it up with ideas, don't be afraid or guarded to get out there where you might see something you might not like. Instead, let yourself see it, but when you see it, understand that everything has more sides to it than just the one that you're seeing. And as you look at it, whatever it is, it might be a crippled child, it might be someone that is misbehaving, it might even be someone who is lying to you or deceiving you or treating you wrong in some way. Look at it, but don't fight against the current. Instead, ask yourself, 'How would my Inner Being approach this subject? How is my Inner Being seeing this? What aspect of you does my Inner Being see?'

And as you start to look at it in that way, what happens is you begin to let that broader part of you find the positive aspects in whatever you are looking at because EVERYTHING has what is wanted and lack of it within it. And as you find what is wanted, you come back into alignment while you are still having this experience, and now you are having a broader experience of alignment rather than a narrow experience of alignment.

Ah! Aligning with who you are, and then co-creating with others, is the very best. And when you reach the place that you don't need to demand of them that they be in alignment when you play with them, because YOU ARE, now you've got it. That's what the Art of Allowing is. Allowing them whether they allow me or not. Because then, the whole WORLD is your oyster. Now, protection isn't an issue for you. Now, you don't have to run and hide from anything. Now, you are in alignment with YOU, so your point of attraction is stable so the Universe cannot yield to you anything other than that which is the best for you, and now you are FREE to go anywhere that you want to go without guardedness because Law of Attraction does not bring to you that which you are not, you see. And your world is expansive and broad.

The best description of of Law of Allowing EVER.

Sometimes people, once they begin getting the hang of alignment...they get tuned-in, tapped-in, turned on, they're feeling pretty good, then they say, 'But those people at work are so negative!" And we say, and in your awareness of that you're no longer in tuned in. And that's why you resent them. That's why you don't want to go there any more, because you think they make you do that. And we want you to understand, nobody makes you do anything, you have control of how you feel. Stop giving them the power.

[Cantabile]

Thank you everyone for providing me answers.

And thank you Maui for giving me such a wonderful quote from Abe. I admit that after learning the law of attraction, I became a little guarded on myself----purposefully avoiding things that will make me feel not good. lol. Funny though, I forgot that the universe works in a way that it's always yes to everything you want and you do not want if you focus on it.

My relationship with the family today is okay. A little comfortable as I must admit because I am still consciously aware that my actions is being watched. This morning though through my frustration from people's (in the household) negativity upsetting me, I told the universe, "Universe, I am upset. What should I do with this feeling?", by my asking, I came across Abe through youtube. I remember him saying that "We don't want your negative feelings to go away. Embrace it. Accept it."

I learned that we can not control anyone. We can't order them to change their behaviour toward us.

And so I don't have to work hard on anything. Especially if I want to establish a relationship with them. Pleasing them would only make it worse. I'll let myself be me. I'll let myself appreciate myself, reconnect to what I have once lost. Just be easy about it they say.

So I let go and I raise my arms and jump off the cliff to happiness!