Giving myself a gold star

[Dance of Joy]

My daughter is in a great deal of pain at the moment, and her anger is directed at me. I am learning wonderful lessons about allowing and loving unconditionally, which means letting her be in charge of her life and take responsibility for it.

And so, in that vein, I have chosen to give myself a gold star for being the best damned mother I know.

I let her take responsibility for her own life and her own choices.
I see her as the beautiful soul she is.
I love her unconditionally.
I do not accept behaviour that violates my boundaries.

I give myself the GOLD STAR! Yay for me.

Love,
Christine

[Dance of Joy]

For ME, the best mother I know ~

http://www.makinitupasigo.com/images/gallery/GoldStar05_425.jpg

[GoddessNextDoor]

I'm giving you a bunch of gold stars as well, Christine! You know that all is well and just knowing that is one of the best ways that you can assist your daughter in becoming the person she wants to be. How awesome for both of you!

I hope you don't mind if I jump on your bandwagon and give myself a gold star, too! I'm giving myself a gold star for not succumbing to many downstream thoughts with regard to my relationship situation. I recently experienced a bit of contrast that at another time would have really devastated me, and all is well. I'm handling it with grace and a minimum of drama and it feels good to be able to do that. I rock!

[New Dawn Rising]

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Congrats Christine! For being the best Mother you know! :kiss4:

And I am jumping on the bandwagon and giving myself a GOLD STAR too cause I am the best mother I know. My daughter hated me for awhile and pushed-against me and taught me alot - about love and about maintaining my boundaries in the face of fierce opposition.

And now my daughter is in her late 20s and is one of my BEST FRIENDS! Just wait Christine - I bet someday your daughter :queen: will be one of your best friends and that is so fun!

[Dance of Joy]

Thank you, sweeties, for adding polish to my gold star.

I LOVE that you are giving yourself gold stars too.

I had the best thought while driving earlier. I am giving our entire family a gold star for coming through all of this more loving, closer and more joyful than ever before! I have decided to celebrate before the manifestation until it comes...

Yippee!

Loving you all and me too,
Christine

[Dance of Joy]

Something like this ~

http://images.craveonline.com/article_imgs/Image/600x300mothers-two-daughters.jpg

[Dance of Joy]

Wow.

It is already starting to come true.

I ROCK!

[New Dawn Rising]

Christine! Wow! What a great picture. That must be you and your daughters but I'm surprised cause I thought they were younger?

[PaulaPereira]

Is that you Christine, you look different from another picture I have seen of you so I am unsure :scratch:

If that is you, you look so incredibly beautiful and your girls do too! You all look like poster childs for hot and happy mamacitas!

About your daughter, Alex did the same thing with me too. He made me take responsibility for my own feelings and life. At times, I was driven absolutely nuts by this. I mean how could he not attempt to make me feel better, I would think. However, it was the greatest blessing in disguise to me because I learned to feel that pain strongly and ask myself why am I doing this to myself. I had to bring myself back into alignment, not him and not no one else could ever do that work for me. I honestly think that your daughter will see how much love and trust you have for her, as Alex did with me.

I love you Christine :heart: You are doing phenomenal over there!

[Dance of Joy]

It is not us in the picture. I was looking for pictures that symbolized what I desire. ^^

[Tai]

I give you a gold star too Christine, because you are such an amazing woman! You are an inspiration to so many of us here on the forum, and your daughters are so lucky to have such an uplifting, powerful, wise, loving woman as their mother. You rock Christine!
Love :heart:

[Deva]

About your daughter, Alex did the same thing with me too. He made me take responsibility for my own feelings and life. At times, I was driven absolutely nuts by this. I mean how could he not attempt to make me feel better, I would think. However, it was the greatest blessing in disguise to me because I learned to feel that pain strongly and ask myself why am I doing this to myself. I had to bring myself back into alignment, not him and not no one else could ever do that work for me.

MMMMMMMMMM FREAKING GORGEOUS ISNT IT PAULA!

Its funny cuz I did that with my family too! I just dont take responsibility for the way they feel and I refuse to take part in pity parties. You really cant help it when you know the solutions are easily available when you stop beating the drum of what isnt working.

I adore Alex.. I was thinking that last night. I adore Alex and Andrew Wilcox and Dave (Crane) everyone who is who they are, no excuses, no matter how much the rest of us think they should behave in a certain way. These people don't give in to 'peer pressure' Even I can be a bit "humanitarian" at times.. just because it pleases me to treat others with love & respect doesn't mean its wrong to disrespect someone if you so choose. I had to get to a point to allow another person to be mean and disrespectful. Its been the most healing experience of my life learning to allow even the ugliness. When I do that the peace inside of me is so good, its so quiet and still and I feel such love, a really deep sense of love for all that is! :D