An easy way to drop habits that don't serve you anymore

[Osho Rewa]

I have found this simple technique, whenever I become aware of myself in between any dysfunctional behavior or way of thought - I simply play with it / allow myself to go into it fully.

Not judging it, not judging me - knowing that Its All Appropriate. It is ALL appropriate. I simply watch it happening, while telling myself - I accept myself unconditionally. I am truly loved. I love you very much.

And very soon its gone, works every time on everything. Habits of several years dropped with such ease and grace.

Milton Erickson had a take on this called 'prescribing the symptom', his most famous patient being the adult who was wetting his bed every night - Milton asked him to wake up in the night and pee deliberately all over his bed - and the result - you know it.

The very things that seem undesirable, the bad bad monsters - at some point we took them on, it seemed like a good idea then - now we have grown past them - and soon they'll be gone from our experience.

This very process is the perfection of life - ever becoming.

Rewa

[New Dawn Rising]

You are so right Rewa. Reminds me of a saying I picked up in a 12-step program:

What you resist persists.

[sara]

I have found this simple technique, whenever I become aware of myself in between any dysfunctional behavior or way of thought - I simply play with it / allow myself to go into it fully.
Not judging it, not judging me - knowing that Its All Appropriate. It is ALL appropriate. I simply watch it happening, while telling myself - I accept myself unconditionally. I am truly loved. I love you very much.a
DEAR REWA, :wave: :wave: :wave: :wave:
THIS IS GREAT!!! IT MAKES SENSE! I WANT TO CONCIOUSLY TRY IT...I MAY HAVE DONE IT UNCONCIOUSLY BUT I WANT TO TRY IT THIS WAY!! THIS IS WITHOUT TAPPING?????????????
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!
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[Osho Rewa]

THIS IS WITHOUT TAPPING?????????????
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!![/size]
:heart: :heart: :queen: :heart: :heart:

The 'no-fight' approach is what turned my life around - and it makes sense on every level. This is a universe of love, and only that.

You know when the monster takes you over, all you know, all your resolves everything fades -
you find yourself in the middle of the tornado - you can't even stop for breathing - that's when I remember this simple thing - indeed on some level the knowing happens - It is all appropriate.


Funny thing is just a few months of this approach - and now those tornadoes are rare if ever for me. And all these 'big' scary things depression,rage, addictions - they're all very temporary - gone poof if we just allow it.


Love to you brightlovelight

Rewa

[asjairok]

I have found this simple technique, whenever I become aware of myself in between any dysfunctional behavior or way of thought - I simply play with it / allow myself to go into it fully.
Not judging it, not judging me - knowing that Its All Appropriate. It is ALL appropriate. I simply watch it happening, while telling myself - I accept myself unconditionally. I am truly loved. I love you very much.a
DEAR REWA, :wave: :wave: :wave: :wave:
THIS IS GREAT!!! IT MAKES SENSE! I WANT TO CONCIOUSLY TRY IT...I MAY HAVE DONE IT UNCONCIOUSLY BUT I WANT TO TRY IT THIS WAY!! THIS IS WITHOUT TAPPING?????????????
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!
:heart: :heart: :queen: :heart: :heart:
Yes, me too! :mrgreen:

[asjairok]

...And all these 'big' scary things depression,rage, addictions - they're all very temporary - gone poof if we just allow it.
Rewa
You put this great, thank you :hug: :heart:

[Osho Rewa]

Ana, these days I speak my truth and just that. It always feels great.

Love
Rewa

[Mariposa]

HI Rewa!!! XD

I loved your suggestion, but I am not sure how I would make it myself... could you possibly give us an example of this? The peeing example is very clear, but how about when it comes to just thought patterns that you started to hate and wanna get rid of?? Lately, I've been complaining so much about what's happening, can't stop lookin at what is, for example, the lack of money, the lack of freedom, the circumstances, and what I'm doing ''wrong'' is I can't stop looking at it. You know... it actually HAS happened to me at times, that I allow myself to cry like a baby about some situation... and like 2 seconds after I start crying, I become aware of how stupid I look crying for that! XD It gets me higher on the emotional scale so quick. It's like the pendulom that swings so high to one extreme, that it naturally falls back to the opposite... It's genius.

So what could be an example of playing with a negative thought and getting into it fully? You've been using it a lot Rewa, so u think you could maybe share one thought chain you've been through? I think I can see how it gets one's Energy Flowin.. I'd looooooooooooove to get rid of these.. cuz I'm so mad lately!!! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahh!!! :x lol

I'll be fine in time... :roll:

again, Rewa, a great post :hug: I think it's AWESOME that you speak the truth! I love honesty :D I love truth XD

love to all,

Maris

[Osho Rewa]

Hi Maris,

I am in between this now - so let me share it with you - last night I had a clear
realization - it is only for me to ask for feeling states - that's my only job.
The realization went right to my core - and immediately large parts of me freaked out

- the aspect of me that makes all the plans, and acts as 'creator' feels like it is dying
- the aspect of me that was attached to the specific creations feels deep loss
- another aspect of me feels totally confused what does all this mean?
How is the future going to be? This changes everything.
- yet another aspect wants to resist all of this change - after all I haven't felt this
much turmoil in the last 2 months - this is too much, what did I do wrong, let me
distract myself, let me do large rampages of appreciation about other things so that I can shift to a better feeling state. I don't want to be here.

Now all of this is there, there's fear and pain and spaciness and what not - but there's also the witnessing part of me, that part of me which is seeing and feeling all of this while also knowing that all is well, this is exactly appropriate for me now. I have been reminding myself - It is as it is, and I can feel the relief rushing in.

When off balance the only thing to focus on is to get back into balance - and the only sustainable way for that is to relax and be ok with whatever is happening. I could distract myself and get back into balance - that would leave this vibration right where it was - to pop back into my reality again - its not worth it - so from experience I have found the best way is to face whatever is happening - knowing It is as it is - and that is appropriate. After all all emotions are guidance, communication about my vibrational offering now - and the moment I come to realize that and be ok with it - I start shifting - why? because in the moment of feeling discomfort I have already powerfully emanated rockets of desire for a better feeling place, that is natural - really all I have to do now is let life take me there - and know that whatever is happening is doing just that.

Two great videos on this:

Abraham explains this beautifully in the video entitled 'The Stream'
YouTube- ABRAHAM ON THE STREAM - Esther & Jerry Hicks

Eckhart Tolle - The enormous power of yes
YouTube- Eckhart Tolle, the enormous power of YES, www.soundstrue.com

I hope this helps.

Rewa

[Mariposa]

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Rewa, I love you, the Eckhart Tolle video you shared led me to another Eckhart Tolle video which totally enlightened me... I read a quote and my heart is smiling now.

''Make the present moment into your friend, not your enemy''

I'm not sure the quote is what made me feel so good, but maybe Eckhart Tolle's energy... All I can feel is my Inner Being now... And Well-Being flowing through me... I just allowed the present moment to be my friend and Well-Being came right in... instantly... a smile came up to my face... :)

Thank You for This Rewa... :loveflag:

[Osho Rewa]

this may seem to contradict much of what I've written earlier in the thread - however consistency or being right aint my goal - life moves on, this I learned today,

1. Acceptance of where I am - what I'm feeling is the first key - a simple recognition of the negative emotion that I'm feeling during this thought or action is enough. So I'm feeling anger - It Is As It Is and it is valuable guidance.

2. Reach for a better feeling thought. Wallowing further in the discomfort is not essential or desired.

Another way to put this - instead of me acting as the healer or the fixer - I refocus onto what I want.

[Osho Rewa]

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Rewa, I love you, I read a quote and my heart is smiling now.

I just allowed the present moment to be my friend and Well-Being came right in... instantly... :loveflag:

:loveflag: beautiful Maris