Relation Sheeps

[Mariposa]

Helllooo EveryBOdy!!!

:grouphug: You know that feeling of... expecting love from others? You know, when you want their attention. Have you ever wanted somebody to ask you out? Well when it comes to this topic, I've found myself feeling pretty yukky about the whole thing... so it's like I'd rather not have these feelings, I'd rather not have these desires. Wanting stuff from others makes me feel vulnerable and dis-empowered, since it's not up to me. Now what I read Abraham say is that when we relate desire with something that feels bad, then it's not the desire, but the resistance. Alright then, I have resistance. What do you do with it? How do you deal with wanting some1 to call you when they don't? How to deal with wanting something from another person, when you have no idea what they feel for you? How do you deal with the feeling of desire, wanting a specific person to spend time with you, when they seem to be outta range? It seems to me it's always best to forget about it. But loving ppl and having relationships is human and necessary, isn't it?

And don't come tell me to do virtual reality, daydreaming and crap rofl I've done that for months!!! There's this other thread about emotions and dealing with them... now how I feel is kinda angry and or sad... because I feel powerless... I can't create in another's reality, right? I even feel diminished, and stupid... it's really uncomfortable to like somebody who's not interested, or seeems interested sometimes and then not, you know what I mean?... crap! So shouldn't I forget about it? But at the same time... I want love! of course :love: :love: :love: How do you soften the resistance around the subject of relationships? How to know when it's best to give up on what we want?

Thanks you all :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

[Angel]

I've bene dealing with the same issue lately! from experience I've learned that having an atitude about it from I don't need it and it's fun to think about it but I'm ok works best. Sometime you keep thinking about it and you keep seeing it ain't there. So trying to get the feeling that you don't need it most of the time get's it to me. But I know it's sometimes hard to try to get in that feeling when you're feeling so powerless. I think it's just going with the flow and change your perspective about it as you go along and it will feel better. :kiss4:

[Dance of Joy]

Sweet Maris,

Never EVER give up on what you want. You are worthy and deserving of every single thing you have ever desired.

However, feel free to LET GO of making it happen, or worrying about why you have not yet let it in.

Just go out and do something fun. And keep doing fun things. Then ~ I guarantee ~ he will show up.

Love,
Christine :heart: :heart: :hug: :heart: :love:

[Bodhi]

Sweet Maris,

.. feel free to LET GO of making it happen, or worrying about why you have not yet let it in.

Just go out and do something fun. And keep doing fun things. Then ~ I guarantee ~ he will show up.



What helped me in the past was I stopped trying. I started nurturing that wanted feeling of love within me because I realised another person can never really make me happy unless I make myself happy first.

... and when that feeling settled in me, he came. (I connected the dots... even if people are not aware of the LOA, sooner or later life shows you how things work). Words don't teach, experiences teach.

We are sheep, but we are also our own shepherds. :heart:

[Dance of Joy]

Yes, yes, yes. Thank you for adding that MOST IMPORTANT bit, Natasha. Loving oneself as one wishes their lover to do for them. I had forgotten I did that also! I actually used to write love notes to myself, buy myself flowers, take myself to the restaurant for a meal, admire myself in the mirror...

Yummmmm.

[Bodhi]

Hehe, that felt upstream to me coz I knew I was attractive and smart enough to have it my way. :tongue:

Mariposa, do whatever feels good to you ... and only you.

[Tai]

Yes, I agree with the others. Love yourself first, pay attention to yourself. When you feel good no matter what, things you want will come to you much more easily. Try to 'forget' about this person and what is for a moment, or at least don't worry about it, and just do what you need to feel good and relaxed.
And yes, it is very logical and human that you want love. But all the love you want is inside yourself. Open yourself for it, experience while you look at the beautiful nature, when you talk to your wonderful friends or when you watch a silly tv-show that makes you laugh. It's all in you, everything you desire.

Love :heart:

[Mariposa]

Heyyy :wink2: Thanks Everybody for the replies :grouphug:

Well Sure, loving self... but... let's be honest, who wants to just stay loving one's self and be without others??? I guess you mean that WHEN you really love yourself then love shows up from the outside as well??? I mean, I've been feeling pretty good, loving myself, feeling joyful and appreciating sooo much about my life... but I still want a date, you know what I mean? This guy sounds fun to date, only... I've no clue how to allow it, and I'm anxious? Because of all the signs that I don't know how to read... Yes, yes, I do not NEED to date him or to have him ask me out... I can LIVE without it lol but... what have you guys done in the past or what would you suggest??? Ask him out? There's this guy who asked me out few months ago, well, there's three guys that asked me out but... the first one most of all, I didn't think he did well asking me out so soon, because he ruined it, I became distant after that, so we couldn't even become friends... I am talking about alignment here. How do you know, wait, how do you become aligned... ... aajjj whatever lol :joylick: nevermind rofl

[Nightprincessa]

the first one most of all, I didn't think he did well asking me out so soon, because he ruined it, I became distant after that, so we couldn't even become friends...

Maris, I'm a little confused here with that part of the quote. :scratch:
Do you mean to say that you have specific guidelines as to how dating should be and when they should ask you out?
If that's the case, then you're only setting yourself up to wait much much longer cuz you're limiting the ways in which it can happen. Just do away with what people say about how dates should be.
Let things happen naturally!

As for alignment... just love yourself and try the asking him out approach... maybe it can be subtle if you don't feel like being bold. You can give him a hint, a very direct hint lol... just be creative! ^^ :winking:

[Tai]

Well Sure, loving self... but... let's be honest, who wants to just stay loving one's self and be without others??? I guess you mean that WHEN you really love yourself then love shows up from the outside as well???

Yes, that's what I meant! Your outside world reflects your inside world right.. so when you feel Love within yourself, you will be open to more Love.

I mean, I've been feeling pretty good, loving myself, feeling joyful and appreciating sooo much about my life... but I still want a date, you know what I mean? This guy sounds fun to date, only... I've no clue how to allow it, and I'm anxious? Because of all the signs that I don't know how to read... Yes, yes, I do not NEED to date him or to have him ask me out... I can LIVE without it lol but... what have you guys done in the past or what would you suggest??? Ask him out?
In my opinion it's not about certain clues that you have to interpret some way, but how it feels. How does it feel when you're with him? When you leave all the rules etc. out of it, and just feel, what do you feel? Does it feel good to be around him? And when you imagine asking him out, how does that feel for you?
My advice is, don't play games, don't think about how it should go according to standards. If you like someone and you want clarity if he likes you to, first of all GIVE that clarity by showing him that you like him!

Love :heart:

[Mariposa]

:clap: rofl :clap: rofl :clap: rofl :clap:

Leah!! you SO rock!! rofl

If he seems uninterested at ANY time, I'm curious as to how you think being with him would give you love.

lol well I know that wasn't clearly written, lol didn't mean that :joylick: I mean I want love in general... I want relationships, contact, ppl to hang out with... and I've had a lot of fun around him and this group of friends of his... so I don't really know what it's like to be together alone with him yet, and I didn't know how to make it happen so... but I'm thinking he might be shy and he opens up when we are with his friends, but not with just me... yet ^^

You're stunningly beautiful and you probably scare him to death. Go for it, Mariposa!
:clap: I'm holding on to that one thought, thank youu!! rofl Leah I appreciate the clarity you've given me :love: :love: :love: thank youuuu :kiss4: :kiss4: :kiss4:

Now... 11:11... :love: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

I want YOU to ask me out now!! XD XD XD XD XD Your post was awwwesome rofl

:D Did you make that up? That deer story was perfect! :scratch: XD XD yes yes yes... I could see myself in that deer... cute pooor little lonely wounded deeer :heart: :love: :heart: :love: :heart: :heart: lol!!!! alright, alright, I get it! XD XD XD

SO Universe... :drum: :wink2: :heart: :love: I'd like to hang out with this person you know... and have fun and allow the relationship to grow in whatever direction... And/or I want several attractive interesting ppl to ask me out on dates and have a lot of fun :P :P :P :P Most of all I want to allow fear to be released so that every sweet loving person around me can enter my vibration and into my experience to smoothley interact and share joy and love together ^^ ^^ ^^ ^^

:grouphug: I love you guys :heart: :wave: