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Naturally
Mon Sep 29 2008, 10:09am
The Four Agreements can be summed up as follows:

(1) Be Impeccable With Your Word. The broad scope of this concept is to avoid sin against yourself by what you think. Sinning against the self takes many forms: such as, putting yourself down, gossiping, or putting anybody else down because you don't agree with what they think. Actions and words need to be consistent as part of being impeccable with yourself. The other side of the coin is the smoky mirror concept. Ruiz makes the point that our perceptions of others are merely reflections of ourselves. Therefore, to put another down or project negative words or energy towards another person, is to lash out at the other person because of our own insecurities.

(2) Don't Take Anything Personally. There is an awful lot of negative energy out there and some of it is directed at us by other people. If you take it personally and take on the poison of another's words, it becomes a very negative agreement you have with yourself. What anybody thinks about you, or says about you, is really about them. Not taking it personally allows you to be in relationship with anyone and not get trapped in their stuff. This agreement can also pertain to things that we take personally that cause us to go into upset.

(3) Don't Make Assumptions. What we think we understand about what someone says, how someone looks at us, what someone means by what they do, etc, may often not reflect reality at all, and more often than not lead us to think badly of ourselves or of others, and reinforce not being impeccable with our word.

(4) Always Do Your Best. Your "best" is a variable thing from moment to moment. "When you do your best, you don't give the Judge the opportunity to find you guilty or to blame you.” You can always say, “I did my best." There are no regrets. (p.80) The other key to doing your best revolves about being in action. "Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way that we deny life. Inaction is sitting in front of the television every day for years because you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing what you are. Expressing what you are is taking action. You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward." (p.82)

With Love,
Naturally :heart:

Naturally
Mon Sep 29 2008, 10:17am
A little more concise -

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Warmly,
Naturally :heart:

Steph
Mon Sep 29 2008, 10:25am
I loved this book!!
I didn't always agree word for word, I filtered what didn't fit for me - but I love the book and the vibration of it!! Beautiful stuff!!

Love and joy, Steph

AttractionFactor
Mon Sep 29 2008, 5:22pm
Thanks Kambe.

I love all the Four Agreements, while the Second One is the one that I routinely look at daily.

The Four Agreements can be summed up as follows:

(2) Don't Take Anything Personally. There is an awful lot of negative energy out there and some of it is directed at us by other people. If you take it personally and take on the poison of another's words, it becomes a very negative agreement you have with yourself. What anybody thinks about you, or says about you, is really about them. Not taking it personally allows you to be in relationship with anyone and not get trapped in their stuff. This agreement can also pertain to things that we take personally that cause us to go into upset.

With Love,
Naturally :heart:

I've learned to let things go of what people think of me. I don't take it personally.
All that matters is what I think of myself - and I like Me - while that's all that ever matters.

This is a 180 degree turn from how I thought in high school.

It also shows that I have definitely evolved for the better. :wink2: :joylick: :biggrin:

Naturally
Mon Sep 29 2008, 8:13pm
Lisa, Leah, Steph and Stevie - yes I love this book as well. It is a great tool for more allowing and alignment.

For me it emphasizes that we own our vibration/pie. We chose what to put in it. We have the power. At the same time what we put out of our pies should be deliberate aswell and of higher vibrational quality so to speak. As we find relief, and become conduits of Source...we overflow with yummy goodness.

We light up a room, heal our bodies, and get more of the stuff we want as we live deliberatly.

I appreciate you guys immensly
Naturally,
Kambe :heart: :heart: :heart:

Jen415
Tue Sep 30 2008, 10:56am
I was given this book about 6 years ago...it didn't resonate with me then. But I am SO NOW NOT the woman I was then. I bet I will mean so much more to me reading it this time!

:heart: Jen :heart:

Bodhi
Thu Oct 02 2008, 2:45pm
"FOCUS YOUR BEST."

Man, I love this! (very succinct..short and simple)
Beautiful, Adal. :heart:

Kambe, thanks for reminding me of the book. I read it years ago, and it helped a LOT back then. It made so much sense to me. Delicious crumbs of wisdom that brought me to where I am today.

Thank you!

LOVE