Guilt?

[finallyone]

Hi guys :wave:

I haven't posted here in a while but have been enjoying reading the board as much as possible.

I just had a question about guilt.

Abe says that there are no real victims because everyone has attracted what happens to them in their own experience.

Abe also says that if you concentrate on feeling something you get more things that make you feel that way.

And of course Abe says you can't create in another's experience.

So, I was wondering, say you do something to someone else that causes you to feel guilty and you want to make it up to them:

I'm guessing it's better to not concentrate on feeling guilty (since you'll get more of that) but to concentrate on feeling... what?

Also, in my case, I would love to get an opportunity to apologize to someone however I'm guessing that unless they are vibrating an apology from me, I won't be blessed with the opportunity even if I desire it, is this correct?

Also I'm guessing that they were, at that moment, vibrating me doing what I did into their experience, which makes me feel a little less guilty.

Any other ideas on how to deal with guilt?

[finallyone]

Rocknrollgoddess,

Thanks for the amazing post. Very interesting points! :applause:

I agree that guilt and worry are really quite useless emotions. Of course every emotion serves a purpose (to remind you where you are in terms of your alignment with your inner being), however there is no need to wallow in bad feelings! Great!

understand this--if you EVER do something "wrong" to another person--it is almost 100% something that from the non-physical BEFORE you even came into existence you agreed to give them the contrast that they so desired in order to expand their souls and give them experience they desired...without question...

it is law--if something happens--they were a match to it--and they have expanded and become MORE because of it--so, are you going to apologize for helping them grow?

Great, great point. Co - creating is a marvelous thing!

[Dance of Joy]

There is nothing for you to go back and live over, or fix, or feel regret about now. Every part of your life has unfolded just right. And so --now -- knowing all that you know from where you now stand, now what do you want? The answers are now coming forth to you. Go forth in joy, and get on with it.

Excerpted from a workshop in Virginia Beach, VA on Saturday, April 12th, 1997


This is for you, Finallyone.

YOU ARE SO FREE.

Love,
Christine

[Tai]

Hi Finallyone!

If you feel guilty because of something you 'did to someone', maybe instead of apologizing and focusing more on the guilty feelings and the thing you 'did', you could do something nice to them. Make a rampage of appreciation about them and send it to them, buy them something sweet, bring them flowers, give them a nice compliment, or something else that feels good.

Much love :heart:
Tai

[saulute]

Be careful with bringing flowers. That was almost the only occasion my ex used to bring me flowers, and they would make me madder. :scratch: